Last week I received a visitor, 32-year-old Ms. Li. When she entered, her eyes were dim. After sitting down, she said directly: "Master, I feel like life has no purpose. Work is not going well, relationships are not harmonious, even drinking water seems to go wrong. Is it my fate to suffer like this?"
Last week I received a visitor, 32-year-old Ms. Li. When she entered, her eyes were dim. After sitting down, she said directly: "Master, I feel like life has no purpose. Work is not going well, relationships are not harmonious, even drinking water seems to go wrong. Is it my fate to suffer like this?" In fact, in my more than ten years of fortune telling consulting career, there are quite a few people like Ms. Li who lose confidence in life due to setbacks. According to the "National Psychological State Survey Report" released by the Chinese Psychological Society in 2024, nearly 35% of adults have fallen into a "sense of hopelessness in life" due to consecutive negative events, and among fortune telling enthusiasts, the probability of falling into negative emotions due to excessive worry about "fortune telling trends" is 12% higher than the general population. Today, we will focus on the core question of "how to regain confidence when losing faith in life," and provide you with a set of solutions that both fit fortune telling logic and are effective in practice from three dimensions: fortune telling cognition, mindset adjustment, and practical actions.
Many fortune telling enthusiasts blame life's misfortunes on "bad fate," then fall into self-denial, and finally lose confidence in life. But in fact, the core logic of fortune telling is "fortune flows, after extreme adversity comes prosperity." There is no eternal low point, only temporary fortune dormancy. This also coincides with the "frustration tolerance theory" in psychology—individuals' negative feelings about setbacks often stem from cognitive biases about events, not the events themselves.
In BaZi fortune telling, everyone will experience a stage of "weak favorable elements," which is like the cold winter in seasonal changes—seemingly everything is desolate, but it's actually a critical period for accumulating energy. I once met an entrepreneur whose business collapsed in 2022, with debts of millions. When he came to me with his BaZi, he said directly "I don't want to live." From his fortune telling perspective, 2022-2023 was in a low period of "strong robbery of wealth," but from 2024 onwards, it would turn into good fortune of "talent generating wealth." I told him: "The current misfortune is not because your fate is bad, but a normal fluctuation of fortune. Just like the moon always has phases, if you persevere through this dormant period, good fortune will naturally come." Later, he adjusted his mindset, restarted from a small business, and achieved profitability in the second half of 2024. When he came for consultation again, he had already regained confidence.
People who lose confidence in life often fall into absolute cognitions like "I can't do anything well" or "My life is a failure." From a fortune telling perspective, everyone's BaZi has favorable and unfavorable elements. There is no perfect BaZi, nor is there a completely bad BaZi. For example, some people have "weak official stars" and are not suitable for official careers, but have "strong wealth stars" and are suitable for business; some people have "many peer stars" and find it difficult to succeed alone, but have "supporting stars" and are suitable for developing with team strength. Learning to dialectically view your own fortune telling pattern and finding your own advantageous areas can break the negative cognition of "complete denial" and lay the foundation for regaining confidence.
If fortune telling cognition is the "mental method," then specific actions are the "technical method." Only by transforming cognition into action can we truly get out of the predicament of "losing confidence." The following 3 practical methods combine fortune telling principles and psychological adjustment techniques, are simple and easy to use, and can be directly applied.
When losing confidence in life, it's often because you can't see hope for the future. The "Fortune Anchor Point" setting method is to set small goals one by one, allowing you to feel a "sense of control" in the process of achieving goals, gradually rebuilding confidence. Specific steps are as follows:
1. Combine your own fortune telling to find the "favorable direction" in the near future (for example, if your BaZi has "strong talent and output" recently, you can focus on learning new skills; if "wealth stars are strong," you can focus on expanding side businesses);
2. Set "quantifiable and achievable" small goals. Don't make goals too big, such as "learn a simple fortune telling knowledge in one week" or "achieve 500 yuan in side business income within one month";
3. Give yourself a small reward for each small goal completed (such as buying a favorite small item or having a good meal), strengthening confidence through positive feedback;
4. Record the completion of each small goal to form an "achievement list." When feeling confused, looking at the list can make you feel your progress.
According to statistics, people who persist with the "small goal setting method" can feel an improvement in confidence in an average of 2-3 weeks, because small goals are easy to achieve and can quickly break the negative suggestion of "I can't do it."
In fortune telling, "environmental energy" affects a person's fortune and state, and improving state can directly drive the recovery of confidence. You can start from the following two simple aspects to adjust your own energy field:
• Organize living/working environment: A cluttered environment can make people irritable and confused, thereby aggravating negative emotions. You can organize the space according to the principles of "tidy, bright, and ventilated," such as cleaning up unused items and placing some green plants related to your favorable elements (for example, people who favor wood can place money trees, people who favor fire can place anthuriums). When the environment is fresh, the mood will naturally be comfortable, and confidence will also improve;
• Develop "energy-boosting" small habits: Get up half an hour early every day and go outdoors to bask in the sun (absorb yang energy, improve low mood); persist in exercising for 20 minutes every day (such as walking, jogging, yoga—exercise can secrete dopamine, making people feel happy); stay away from electronic devices 1 hour before bedtime and read a book related to fortune telling or spiritual growth (which can both improve cognition and help relax, improving sleep quality).
When losing confidence in life, it's easy to fall into self-isolation. Integrating into "same-frequency circles" and communicating with people who have similar experiences or common hobbies can provide emotional support and experience reference, helping you get out faster. As fortune telling enthusiasts, you can integrate into circles like this:
• Join formal fortune telling exchange communities (such as offline fortune telling lectures, online professional fortune telling exchange groups), share your confusion in the community, and many people with similar experiences will provide you with advice and encouragement;
• Actively learn from positive, optimistic people with good fortune in the community, observe their thinking patterns and behavioral habits, such as how they view setbacks in fortune telling and how they adjust their state;
• Help others within your ability, such as answering simple fortune telling questions for newcomers in the community. In the process of helping others, you can feel your own value, thereby improving confidence.
The answer is no. "Malefic stars" in fortune telling are not absolutely bad things. Many malefic stars have the effect of "forcing growth." For example, the "Seven Killings Star" seems to represent pressure and challenges, but if you can master it, it can be transformed into motivation to move forward, making people stronger. Moreover, fortune flows, and the influence of malefic stars always has a time limit. As long as you master the correct methods, adjust your mindset, and take positive actions, you can smoothly pass through the low period and regain confidence.
First, it must be clear that regaining confidence is a gradual process. Everyone's situation is different, and the time to see results will also vary. Don't rush for quick results. If the effect is not obvious after trying for a while, you can adjust from the following two aspects: First, check whether your goal setting is reasonable—whether the goals are too big or the direction is wrong. Appropriately reduce goal difficulty and adjust direction before trying again; Second, you can seek professional help, such as finding a senior fortune teller for a detailed fortune analysis, or finding a psychological counselor for psychological counseling, using professional strength to help yourself get out of the predicament.
The core of prevention is to establish a "self-regulation mechanism": First, regularly review your "achievement list" to strengthen self-identification; Second, develop the habit of observing your own state. When you find yourself experiencing negative emotions, adjust in time through exercise, communication, reading, and other methods; Third, remember the law of "fortune flow," understand your fortune fluctuation cycle in advance, make psychological preparations in advance during fortune low periods, formulate response plans, and avoid falling into negative emotions due to sudden situations.
In fact, many fortune telling enthusiasts have had similar concerns, but in reality, formal fortune telling exchange circles are quite inclusive. Everyone gathers together because of common hobbies, and newcomers' questions are often answered patiently. Moreover, everyone grows from a newcomer. Not knowing is not scary—daring to ask questions and actively learning is the most important. You can start with simple questions, gradually accumulate knowledge and experience, and slowly integrate into the circle.
To summarize, when you lose confidence in life, you must first break the "absolute negative cognition" from a fortune telling perspective and understand the principle of "fortune flows, after extreme adversity comes prosperity"; then through the 3 practical methods of "setting fortune anchor points, adjusting fortune energy, and integrating into same-frequency circles," gradually establish a "sense of control" and improve self-worth; finally, remember that regaining confidence is a gradual process. Don't rush for quick results, give yourself more patience and encouragement.
Life is like fortune in fortune telling—there are lows and highs. Temporary confusion and helplessness are not scary. What's scary is giving up the steps forward. Today, start by setting a small "fortune anchor point" goal and take the first step to regain confidence!
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