It was clearly calculated as a perfect match, so why was I still abandoned in the end? This message from the background struck a chord with countless fortune telling enthusiasts.
It was clearly calculated as a perfect match, so why was I still abandoned in the end? This message from the background struck a chord with countless fortune telling enthusiasts. According to 2024 data from emotional research institutions, 72% of people who experience heartbreak will question their past emotional predictions in pain, and among fortune telling enthusiasts, due to their belief in "destined relationships," the cycle of getting over heartbreak is on average 1.5 times longer than ordinary people. Being abandoned by a loved one is never proof of "bad fate," but rather a growth opportunity in the flow of relationships. Today, from the perspective of combining fortune telling principles with practical healing, we'll teach you step by step to get out of the shadow of heartbreak and regain inner peace.
Many fortune telling enthusiasts fall into a misconception: believing that "smooth relationships" shouldn't have separation pain, and once abandoned, they fall into self-denial like "I'm unlucky" or "the calculation was wrong," which actually increases internal consumption. From a fortune telling perspective, every relationship has a cycle of "formation, stability, decay, and emptiness." The pain brought by separation is essentially an inevitable part of "emotional tribulation" and an opportunity for self-awakening in one's fate.
• Allow yourself to "not be strong": Give yourself 1-2 weeks of emotional release period. Cry if you want to cry, talk to trusted people if you want to confide. Don't force yourself to "get better quickly." Fortune telling emphasizes "going with the flow," and the natural flow of emotions is the first step to resolving pain.
• Reject "fatalism" bondage: Don't repeatedly review past fortune telling results, and don't equate "being abandoned" with "lifelong relationship problems." Relationship fortune in one's fate chart naturally has ups and downs. The end of one relationship is to help you avoid the wrong person and welcome a more compatible relationship.
As a fortune telling enthusiast, you can use your professional cognitive advantages to objectively sort out this relationship instead of drowning in pain. From the perspective of BaZi marriage compatibility, the longevity of a relationship depends not only on the complementary Five Elements of both parties, but also on the compatibility of their fortune cycles. Often, being abandoned is not because you're not good enough, but because both parties' fortune cycles entered a "conflicting period," and the relationship naturally came to an end.
• Objective review: Take out paper and pen, sort out from two dimensions: "fortune telling compatibility" and "realistic interaction." For example, are there long-term conflicting elements in both parties' BaZi? Are there irreconcilable conflicts in reality (such as value differences, lifestyle conflicts)? The purpose of sorting is not to assign blame, but to see the "inevitable direction" of this relationship and reduce the obsession with "what if."
• Use fortune telling tools for guidance: You can analyze your own fortune cycles to see the characteristics of your relationship fortune during this period, understanding that "being abandoned" is a normal result of fortune cycle flow, not a denial of personal ability. This understanding can effectively reduce self-doubt.
The core logic in fortune telling is "everyone has an independent fate, with their own fortune and energy field." Many people unconsciously bind their fortune to their partner in relationships, and after being abandoned, they feel "their fortune has been taken away," falling into self-denial. In fact, true relationships are about "1+1>2" energy field compatibility, not one-sided dependence.
• Regain personal advantages: Review your fate advantages (such as strong Food God in BaZi representing strong creativity, strong Proper Seal representing reliability), combine with your real-life strengths, and invest in things you enjoy. For example, if you like handicrafts, focus on creation; if you're good at analysis, study fortune telling cases. Rebuild your sense of self-worth through engagement.
• Adjust life rhythm: Adjust living habits according to your fortune preferences. For example, people whose BaZi favors Fire can go to warm, bright places more often and wear red clothing to enhance their energy field; those who favor Water can contact water environments more and maintain regular schedules. A regular life that matches your fate can quickly improve emotional stability.
In addition to psychological adjustments, we can also use the "energy field harmonization" logic in fortune telling to accelerate healing through specific actions. The following methods have been tested by many fortune telling enthusiasts and can help quickly get out of pain.
First, completely cut contact with the other party, including deleting contact information and not inquiring about their status. Then place green plants at home that match your fortune preferences (such as pothos for those who favor Wood, golden-edged spider plants for those who favor Metal), and use pomelo leaves boiled in water to wipe furniture, purifying negative energy fields both physically and psychologically.
You can wear corresponding auspicious items according to your zodiac or BaZi (such as ox-shaped accessories for those born in the Year of Rat, yellow crystal for those lacking Earth in BaZi), using the energy field of auspicious items to enhance inner sense of security. At the same time, set a short-term goal (such as mastering a new fortune telling knowledge within 3 months, completing a short trip), using action to replace overthinking.
Join reliable fortune telling enthusiast communities and communicate with people who have similar experiences. On one hand, you can share your fortune telling analysis ideas and gain a sense of achievement by helping others; on the other hand, you can also gain inspiration from others' healing experiences, understanding that "being abandoned" is a stage many people go through, not your special case.
From a fortune telling perspective, the direction of emotions has "trends" but no "absolutes." BaZi marriage compatibility can show the compatibility and possible problems in both parties' relationship, but the final result is still influenced by personal choices and behaviors. Being abandoned may be a periodic influence of fortune cycles, not "destined lifelong misfortune." Don't over-believe in "fate."
The core of fortune telling adjustment is "adjusting your own energy field," not "changing others' will." If both parties' fortune cycles still have potential for compatibility, adjusting your own energy field may increase the probability of reconciliation; but if the relationship has ended, forcing reconciliation will only increase your own pain. It's more recommended to focus fortune telling adjustments on "making yourself better" to attract more compatible relationships.
Healing is a gradual process. Fortune telling adjustment is an "auxiliary means" and cannot replace the natural flow of emotions. If you still feel pain, give yourself more time, and combine it with real-life healing methods (such as exercise, meditation, psychological counseling) for better results.
No. In fortune telling, relationship fortune cycles up and down. The end of one relationship is often to help you avoid people who don't match your fate, making room for the next more compatible relationship. Many people, after experiencing heartbreak, through self-growth and energy field adjustment, have more smooth relationship fortune later. You can regularly analyze your own fortune cycles to grasp the key periods when relationship fortune rises.
Being abandoned by a loved one is never proof of "bad fate," but an opportunity for fate self-awakening and energy field upgrade. From accepting emotions to sorting out relationships, from rebuilding self to active healing, each step brings you closer to a more compatible relationship. Remember, the core of fortune telling is "going with the flow and actively adjusting," not passively accepting fate.
You can start taking action today: First, do a comprehensive fortune telling review of yourself to see the essence of this relationship; then, according to your BaZi preferences, adjust one living habit (such as wearing corresponding auspicious items, placing green plants).
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